Beggers are good public speakers

It has been said that public speaking is the number 1 fear among Americans, even cited to be more feared that death. I find that very interesting. I currently live in Paris and as a Parisian, you come across a lot of people in the metro or on the streets who either busk or outright ask you for money. In my habit of over-thinking, I could not help but be impressed by the style and effect these people have. These guys are good public speakers. I mean, we can definitely learn something from them.

What can I learn from them?
-Not giving a darn what people think about you definitely helps your confidence
-Having nothing to lose definitely frees you and there is no boundary to courage/bravery
-Egoism, pride can be a huge obstacle to your development

3 short but important things. I need to learn to incorporate this into my life, in a way that enables me to be balanced and effective. This is what what I want to found my life on. This is what I want my life to be based on.

Only way to slow down time

I used to think there was only one way to slow down time but before writing this I was mentioning it to somebody and they disagreed.. they mentioned that you can also slow down time by smoking marijuana...
I cannot comment on that as I have no experience in that area but I have figured out a sure way to slow down time.
This concept came to me when I was reading a newspaper, there was a cartoon and two students were in a classroom talking and the conversation went something like this:

guy number 1:"I have made a new discovery! how to slow down time..."
guy number 2: "how?!?!"
guy number 1: "take a geology class!!"

my take from this//
I realize that when we are having fun, time flies, but when we are working hard or doing something we don't like... time "slows down"


You either want time to slow down or move faster, depending on where you are in your life right now, it is different for most people; those suffering want time to move faster while those enjoying want it to move slower. We can understand why people would feel like this.

I have my own reasons for wanting time to slow down. At the age of 22, I was invincible. I didn't realize I was growing older till about 2 months before my 23rd birthday. I just realized... CRAP. I am turning 23 soon and nothing can change that.... CRAP!!! is how i felt.

I fear growing old for several reasons: responsibilities, children, being accountable for my previous years, having to face regrets, having to make big decisions, and just being looked at as being old...

So to "slow down time" I came up with a list, the basic premise is to INVEST:
spend time doing something that is productive but not neccesarily interesting.
I would say: pick up a book and read
spend some time working out
spend sometime working on your writing
spend time being still. focus on your breathing
spend time journaling


When we slow down time, we get to appreciate the moment and we get to use our time more wisely.

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I need to learn to accept defeat

learning to accept defeat.
this is hard...
but it is neccesary.
What does it mean to accept defeat? It means knowing the situations that you need to let go of, knowing what you can handle and what you cannot;
ego is a very big part of me. pride is a very big part of who i am. sometimes i look at myself and say to myself that i stink with pride. it is a flaw... more of a curse than a blessing

a few years ago i was dealing with this girl i didnt really like but cuz she was snobbing me i wanted to pursue her by force just to satisfy my pride. i was not interested in her in anyway but just wanted to get her to like me. i took it personally when she did not and went ahead to curse her out a few weeks after the affair was over. I said to myself "that would teach her... not to mess with me".. yes.. that would teach her.

i acted based on my pride. the things i said to her were hurtful and had no real purpose but to soothen my own ego. by accepting defeat i should have conceived that it is okay, the girl "won" and i could have made my life and hers better by just accepting this and moving on.

there is too much negative out there for you or I to be adding some more.

learn to accept defeat in the right contexts. it makes you a better person

going back to the fundamentals

I need to go back to the fundamentals of my life. I have gotten caught up in so many things that are happening that I have forgotten what I am supposed to be building my life upon... hmmm

I am going back to the fundamentals

My advice to the youth

About five or six years ago, I came up with a business idea... this is how it happened..

I had worn one of my favorite button up shirts and at the end of the day when I took it off the collar was dirty. I washed the shirt several times but there was still a slight stain on the collar. This caused unease in me and I started to think about how I could have prevented this...

Then I got the idea of a collar protector. I thought about it briefly and its execution but for some reason I never followed through (just like I haven't followed through yet on any of my business ideas).

But anyways...
A few months ago, I was looking through a website and found a collar protector. I also found out that it was patented about 3 years ago... I could not believe that I had this idea and someone actually pursued it independantly. Which brings me to this post!

this post is about creativity. It has been said that human beings get less creative the older they get...
it is possibly true. i remember being extremely creative when i was younger. it is a shame that i did not pursue all the things i set out to do [or maybe not! hmmm] but I am learning to take every opportunity and run with it. I am also learning to try to keep building my creativity muscle! i will not let it get weaker as I grow older!!

This leads to my advice to the YOUTH!
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My advice is that journalling/note taking/idea writing is extremely important. The mind is a wonderful and beautiful thing but our ability to forget things is alarming. If I had not written down that business idea i might not have being able to convince myself that I had the idea too. I try to journal when I can, sometimes once a week, sometimes once a month. I want to get to a place where i journal e.v.e.r.y d.a.y

so basically this post is primarily dedicated to people starting their lives and people full of ideas (secondarily to anyone interested, old or older etc). I hope this is insight and I hope you take the step to start journaling more often.

the failures of my life

i have failed alot in my life. I have done alot of things which i regret. there are alot of things I am embarassed about. things i do not want anybody to ever know about. in learning to grow, I am deciding to let go of these things... meaning: get to the point where i can post all these things online and not be afraid... or embarassed... anymore..

watch out.... it is coming soon...

How do you compete with cheaters?

I was taking a test in a french history class... (this is Paris) I look around and basically everybody is cheating. With notes hidden in pencil cases, iphones on laps, notes on laps, collaboration and other sorts of cheating. Of course the teacher was there but under the pretexte of being stupid, he did not notice it, most probably by choice, which I cannot say I understand.

I finished my test and I had an essay that was a 2 pages long. I turned it in and saw other people turned in 4, 5, 6 pages. I was thinking, of course you can write all that information if you have wikipedia as your assistant or google. I was really pissed and felt like sending an email to the professor after class telling him that he should not give me a grade based on the grades he gives others BECAUSE I CANNOT COMPETE WITH CHEATERS.

How can I compete.... with cheaters?
I refuse to cheat! I accept full responsibility for my grades whether it is a 70% of a 98%. But this situation poses an issue for me because obviously my grade depends on the work of others.

Well I started thinking about it and I realized that obviously I can still compete with cheaters... it would require much more work but yes, I can compete!! What is the gain?? I am not sure...

I spend 5 more hours studying for a test, still receive a lower grade but I have my pride, my character, my integrity... so really I am only working hard for my pride, character, integrity... not for my grades...

hmmmmm

I also started thinking again... maybe I am a cheater as well..? maybe we are all cheaters...?? think about it... what makes someone a cheater?

I know I have lied at least once or twice during interviews... what does that make me? a cheater? a liar?

what is the difference?
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a vous d'en decider!