Most people are selfish. As a matter of fact, everyone is selfish. Some people are more selfish than others and most time selfishness is not seen until an actual crisis or till a change in perspective but all human beings are selfish.
One of the most important things I have learned in the past few year is that PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT. For example, while for a particular woman it would be selfish to NOT WANT to have children, for another woman it would be selfish to WANT to have children.
The reasons for this might be: for the first woman, the idea of her not being in control of her body, the idea of the body changing so much, the desire to be more in control of her body supersedes the desire to have children. For this reason, her selfishness prevails as she choses herself over anything else.
For the second woman, wanting to have children might fulfil her biological cravings. She would be able to superficially tell people she's a mother, and also the fact that she has a "mini-me" would probably make her ecstatic. This action is selfish when the woman is not capable of being a good mother. Unfortunately, not every woman is designed for parenthood and a lot of people do not have the capacity or will to become good parents, therefore when they chose or do have kids, they are being selfish by not considering whether they can actually be good parents or are interested in becoming good parents.
In essence, though human beings are selfish, we have to train ourselves to be more selfless. Holler
One of the most important things I have learned in the past few year is that PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT. For example, while for a particular woman it would be selfish to NOT WANT to have children, for another woman it would be selfish to WANT to have children.
The reasons for this might be: for the first woman, the idea of her not being in control of her body, the idea of the body changing so much, the desire to be more in control of her body supersedes the desire to have children. For this reason, her selfishness prevails as she choses herself over anything else.
For the second woman, wanting to have children might fulfil her biological cravings. She would be able to superficially tell people she's a mother, and also the fact that she has a "mini-me" would probably make her ecstatic. This action is selfish when the woman is not capable of being a good mother. Unfortunately, not every woman is designed for parenthood and a lot of people do not have the capacity or will to become good parents, therefore when they chose or do have kids, they are being selfish by not considering whether they can actually be good parents or are interested in becoming good parents.
In essence, though human beings are selfish, we have to train ourselves to be more selfless. Holler
